Almost two years ago I wrote that love is not enough .
Less than a week ago, someone used my own words without knowing it, and it made me wonder what has changed for me since then.
More or less nothing.
I still believe that love is a feeling that can only be beautiful but only a basis upon which to build, and not the walls.
I still believe that the compromises are necessary, but not required accept them.
I still believe that perfect love does not exist.
But I learned that listening to (themselves and each other), is the first step.
I learned that this is not to come meet on divergent paths, but to understand each other, feel, hear how the other feels .
I learned that this is not to walk together, but walking by, and when the road is bumpy, exchanging places at the moment can work things out.
I learned that those abstract romantic platitudes of self-giving heart are true. Because for love, for love well, it is first necessary to balance without damaging that piece of meat alive that you find yourself in hand. Each other.
Nobody can protect yourself if your heart does not riprendendoselo.
But mostly I learned that as you can read, listen and ask, you will not find anything or anyone that can tell you what is "your" way.
And so you go back to listening.
hear what you want, even when it contradicts itself.
And listen to what the other wants, even when he contradicts himself.
But above all, completely forgetting what I was taught as "right" if you do not feel that.
The wonder is when they feel the same things. When you understand what's
"smooth corners, and other be left intact by accepting that sting ".
When you understand when injury is inevitable, but you also know that this is right because it takes too.
When you know, when you know that love is something so fragile, thin, labile, who do not treasure appoggiarvici.
Then it's like looking through a soap bubble, iridescent in the balance on our noses.
Less than a week ago, someone used my own words without knowing it, and it made me wonder what has changed for me since then.
More or less nothing.
I still believe that love is a feeling that can only be beautiful but only a basis upon which to build, and not the walls.
I still believe that the compromises are necessary, but not required accept them.
I still believe that perfect love does not exist.
But I learned that listening to (themselves and each other), is the first step.
I learned that this is not to come meet on divergent paths, but to understand each other, feel, hear how the other feels .
I learned that this is not to walk together, but walking by, and when the road is bumpy, exchanging places at the moment can work things out.
I learned that those abstract romantic platitudes of self-giving heart are true. Because for love, for love well, it is first necessary to balance without damaging that piece of meat alive that you find yourself in hand. Each other.
Nobody can protect yourself if your heart does not riprendendoselo.
But mostly I learned that as you can read, listen and ask, you will not find anything or anyone that can tell you what is "your" way.
And so you go back to listening.
hear what you want, even when it contradicts itself.
And listen to what the other wants, even when he contradicts himself.
But above all, completely forgetting what I was taught as "right" if you do not feel that.
The wonder is when they feel the same things. When you understand what's
"smooth corners, and other be left intact by accepting that sting ".
When you understand when injury is inevitable, but you also know that this is right because it takes too.
When you know, when you know that love is something so fragile, thin, labile, who do not treasure appoggiarvici.
Then it's like looking through a soap bubble, iridescent in the balance on our noses.